worry vs. concern

Hello again, friends!

How many things have you worried about in your life?

How many things have you worried about today?

Worry is ruminative speculation of what will go wrong. An anticipation of worst case scenarios and basically a form of self torment.

Very much a "what if" type of thinking.

Sometimes things genuinely need our attention and so that is where we can choose concern over worry.

Concern is a calculated rational assessment of the actual potential problem. Concern is more fact based and is very much constructive.

Would you rather deal with facts? Or fiction?

When we come from a place of concern vs worry we can think clearer.

Worry is fixating on a pain in the body and says "What if I have a terminal illness?..."...which just leads to panic.

Concern is "If I continue to feel this way I will make an appointment with a doctor."

Concern leads to problem solving.

Worry is living in the future (which isn't possible) and is just a habit.

Wait...I will say that one again.

Worry is just a habit. That is all.

Because the unknown is so uncomfortable we come up with worse case scenarios in our head to create the illusion of control of our future. But, it doesn't prepare us. It just diminishes our ability to handle situations.

Concern is living in the present with action taking. It is a normal reaction to a problem or challenge.

Worry comes from lack of faith and makes us retreat.
Concern comes from confidence and faith in ourselves and creates action.

Ask yourself "Do these thoughts serve me and my situation or do they just hurt me?"

We will never eliminate bad things from happening. But we can eliminate needless rumination that brings negativity and panic into our lives.

Remember worry is a habit. If you find yourself in rumination just pause. And choose again.

My clients are learning how to recognize and stop the ruminating thoughts in their tracks.

I help my clients feel better. That is what I do.

If you are a chronic worrier and want help changing click here and let's have a conversation about how I can help you, too.

Keep going and expect miracles, are you worried?

-Allison

your brain is a courtroom

Another Great Day, Friends!

I just heard this magical comparison describing our brain and I just had to share it with you.

Your brain is a courtroom.....stay with me here you are going to love this.

Your mind has a defense and a prosecution, and they are both arguing in your head for their case.

The part of you that can watch your mind think (your spirit/higher self) is the judge. He/she just sits unattached, watches, and listens.

The defense is arguing the case of what you want to truly believe and result you want to create in your life. The goals you want to accomplish. The weight you want to lose. The career change you want to make. The love-of-your life you know is out there.

The prosecution is arguing for why it's not working and it will never work. The prosecution is the one that spews the not enough or see I told you so, or you can't do anything right...your crappy thoughts.

Whichever presents the stronger case with the most convincing evidence wins. You either get what you want or you don't.

And here is a hint, the brain naturally has a negative bias so too often we let the prosecution win.

You have to keep strengthening your defense to create the evidence to support the argument of the results you want to create in your life.

You have to practice this over and over and over.

This is life changing work. You deserve to let the defense win!

Do you feel stuck and want my personalized help here is how to work with me one-on-one:

If you're interested in working together, let's have a 30-45 minute clarity consult where we can discuss a specific issue you may be facing or uncover what is holding you back. We can then create a plan how to address them, and if you wish, with my help, you'll reach that goal faster!! 
Interested? You deserve to have it all! 
Schedule a time on my calendar for our clarity call --> right here.

Excited to continue this journey with you!

Keep going and expect miracles like there is no other option,

-Allison