worry vs. concern
Hello again, friends!
How many things have you worried about in your life?
How many things have you worried about today?
Worry is ruminative speculation of what will go wrong. An anticipation of worst case scenarios and basically a form of self torment.
Very much a "what if" type of thinking.
Sometimes things genuinely need our attention and so that is where we can choose concern over worry.
Concern is a calculated rational assessment of the actual potential problem. Concern is more fact based and is very much constructive.
Would you rather deal with facts? Or fiction?
When we come from a place of concern vs worry we can think clearer.
Worry is fixating on a pain in the body and says "What if I have a terminal illness?..."...which just leads to panic.
Concern is "If I continue to feel this way I will make an appointment with a doctor."
Concern leads to problem solving.
Worry is living in the future (which isn't possible) and is just a habit.
Wait...I will say that one again.
Worry is just a habit. That is all.
Because the unknown is so uncomfortable we come up with worse case scenarios in our head to create the illusion of control of our future. But, it doesn't prepare us. It just diminishes our ability to handle situations.
Concern is living in the present with action taking. It is a normal reaction to a problem or challenge.
Worry comes from lack of faith and makes us retreat.
Concern comes from confidence and faith in ourselves and creates action.
Ask yourself "Do these thoughts serve me and my situation or do they just hurt me?"
We will never eliminate bad things from happening. But we can eliminate needless rumination that brings negativity and panic into our lives.
Remember worry is a habit. If you find yourself in rumination just pause. And choose again.
My clients are learning how to recognize and stop the ruminating thoughts in their tracks.
I help my clients feel better. That is what I do.
Keep going and expect miracles, are you worried?
-Allison
3 good ways to look at failure
How willing are you to fail?
When you're striving to achieve a new personal or professional goal, make a life change, develop a new habit, or transform yourself, failure is going to happen!
You are human, remember!
But, failure doesn't have to be dreadful, in fact, it can be a great thing!
It took me years to truly believe this—years and a lot of money spent on coaches to help me change my belief about failure.
I actually went from believing "I am a failure" , to believing, "failure doesn't exist"!
This is how I want you, my clients, everyone I meet, and especially my daughter to view failure when attempting to reach a new goal.
So, here are 3 shifts I made in helping me change my belief about failure.
Happy Day Everyone!
Failure is always a loaded topic with clients so I want to help everyone see it a bit differently.
How willing are you to fail?
When you're striving to achieve a new personal or professional goal, make a life change, develop a new habit, or transform yourself, failure is going to happen!
You are human, remember!
But, failure doesn't have to be dreadful, in fact, it can be a great thing!
It took me years to truly believe this—years and a lot of money spent on coaches to help me change my belief about failure.
I actually went from believing "I am a failure" , to believing, "failure doesn't exist"!
This is how I want you, my clients, everyone I meet, and especially my daughter to view failure when attempting to reach a new goal.
So, here are 3 shifts I made in helping me change my belief about failure.
1. Failing is just information.
Failing is learning. It means you tried something and didn't get the result you wanted. It doesn't mean you are going backwards or you are incapable. It just means that road didn't get you there so you need to try a new road.
Along the journey make sure you assess what is working, what isn't working, and what you will do differently then keep going with that information.
This is key!
2. Failure just means you are taking action, which builds resilience and momentum.
Failing means you are taking the risks needed to get the new result in your life you want. Congratulations! Facing and overcoming failure builds mental and emotional resilience. Each failure tests your commitment and persistence toward your goals. In that journey you are becoming more of who you were meant to be. Again, congratulations! The opposite of failure is doing nothing. You are no longer pursuing your goals when you do nothing.
If you allow it, failure also teaches you to handle setbacks with grace and determination.
Would you rather fail taking action or take no action at all and get zero results?
3. Failing is saving you time.
Yes, failing saves time. Failing means you will never go down that road again. You will know it didn't work OR you will redo it in a way that could work better. Failure can create efficiency if you allow it to.
I look at every failure as it is just information. That I am learning. I am getting closer to learning what the path is to my next goal. That I am taking action and I will eventually get to the result I want. This creates excitement and curiosity!
That's it!
This is what I do for my clients as well.
I hold belief that they can achieve any goals they desire.
So failing is just information of what isn't working. As long as they keep at it, in time, the results will come!
But it always starts with what you are believing about your failures.
Belief matters.
If you are not willing to put yourself out there and risk failure then you probably aren't succeeding at the level you could.
I can help you with this!
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Expect miracles my friends, even in the failures,